Ask A Hot Chick: Women with Trust Issues

in Ask a Hot Chick Dating & Sex by Jillian — March 14, 2010 | View Comments

The other morning my phone beeped. I was sleeping and my girlfriend decided to look at the text that came in. It was a text from a girl that I hadn’t talked to in a year or so. It basically said she had a dirty dream about me. My girlfriend flipped the fu*k out. She went fu*king a wall on me. What the hell did I do?

~ Anonymous

I am not sure what you did, but I know what you didn’t do; you forgot to remind your girlfriend to take her crazy pills! In my opinion, she shouldn’t have been looking at your phone in the first place. I am a firm believer in partners giving each other privacy. Maybe I am a fool for always trusting my man, but even though I have nothing to hide I wouldn’t have wanted him reading my text messages. If I did look at the text message, this is how the situation would’ve played out:

Me: “Some skank texted you saying she had a dirty dream about you last night. Who is she?”

Him: “A girl I haven’t talked to in a year or so.”

Me: “She can keep on dreaming cause you’re all mine!”

I would then make sweet sweet love to my man to remind him how lucky he is to have me. Unfortunately, not all women are as cool as I am. If I were to guess, I’d say that there is something that happened to your girlfriend during your relationship (or one of her past relationships) that is keeping her from fully trusting you. Women who have trust issues tend to immediately jump to their own conclusions before understanding the situation in its entirety. It is usually the worst possible scenario too.

Handling a woman with trust issues is not always easy. It requires a lot of patience. The best thing a man can do when his woman goes off into a tirade is to remain silent. Arguing with her in an irrational state will get the two of you absolutely nowhere. Stay quiet and listen, or at least pretend to listen, to what she has to say. It is likely that most of it will not make sense. Once she gets everything out of her system and begins to calm down you can start talking to her about the situation on hand. Always begin with something complimentary and positive. Be sure to remind her how much you care about her.

If your girlfriend’s tirade wasn’t a secluded event and she seems to get upset like this often, trust may be something you two need to work on in your relationship. There are two types of people; those who start out trusting others and those who need people to gain their trust. Focus on the trust issues she has and target them. If the two of you conquer the lack of trust, it will make your relationship healthier and longer lasting.

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