Ask A Hot Chick: The Cheater

in Ask a Hot Chick Dating & Sex by Jillian — December 23, 2009 | View Comments

Should you take back someone who cheated on you?

~Tyson

The thing about cheating is that no two cheats are alike. Everybody who cheats will cheat in different ways and for different reasons. The decision to take a cheater back can only be made by the person who was cheated on after all circumstantial information has been taken into consideration. Things to take into consideration include how many times did the cheater cheat, was the cheater honest about cheating, does the cheater seem remorseful, at what physical level did the cheater cheat and why did the cheater cheat.

Knowing how many times the cheater cheated can help the person who was cheated on make the decision to take or not take the cheater back. A onetime drunken mishap can be much easier to forgive than a six month cheating spree.

If the cheater came clean and was honest about his or her mishap, then it can make it easier to push under the rug. Nobody is perfect and people make mistakes. Sometimes a cheater can learn his or her lesson and will change by becoming a better partner.

If the cheater shows true remorse and proves that he or she won’t cheat again, then taking the time to forgive them could strengthen your relationship. Remorse can be influential on the way a person acts. If they’ve done something wrong before and felt a strong sense of remorse after doing it, then it is less likely they will do it again.

Everyone has their own opinions on what physical actions constitute as cheating. Some people think a hug, kiss on the cheek or a brush of a boob is cheating while others may think a kiss on the lips, a blow job or penetrated sex is cheating. It varies based on the levels of trust or jealousy the person being cheated on has. If someone trusts their partner then they won’t mind that he or she gave their ex a hug when they ran into them at the bar.

There are three main reasons why people cheat; hormonal, emotional and revenge. If one partner isn’t getting the sexual satisfaction they need in a relationship then they will find it elsewhere. On the contrary, if a person has only sex in their relationship and they need someone to feel an emotional connection to they will find someone else to connect with. Finally, there is revenge cheating where one partner screws up and to get back at them their partner cheats. This really does no good and ends up hurting a relationship more in the long run.

The decision to take a cheating partner back should be well thought out. Several factors need to be taken into consideration. Do not rush into taking a cheating partner back. Make sure that you will be able to forgive and forget their cheating if you decide to take them back. If you can’t grant forgiveness for what happened, your relationship will end up in a stand still because without forgiveness a relationship cannot grow. Think about how many times they cheated on you, if they were honest, did they show remorse, what physically happened when they cheated and why they cheated.

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