Ask A Hot Chick: Anorgasmia

in Ask a Hot Chick Dating & Sex by Jillian — February 2, 2010 | View Comments

During masturbation I orgasm within a few minutes, but I rarely do during vaginal sex. What can I do?

~ Justin

You know how Goldilocks goes about finding a chair to rest on in the legendary fairytale Goldilocks and the Three Bears? First, she sits on a chair that is “too hard.” Next, she sits on a chair that is too soft. Finally, she finds a chair that is just right. That’s how women work when it comes to sex. If a woman is with a guy who she can’t satisfy during intercourse, she is going to start to thinking his inability to orgasm is because of her. This will most likely make her want to move on. On the contrary, if a woman is with a man who orgasms too quickly and is unable to satisfy her, it is likely she will decide to move on. She wants and needs to find someone that is “just right” for her in bed.

If you want to be the man who is “just right” for her in bed, you need to face the facts of your sexual dysfunction. The difficulty or inability for a man to orgasm during sex is a real disorder that is fairly common. It is called male orgasmic disorder or anorgasmia. It’s the third most common sexual problem for men following premature ejaculation and the inability to get an erection.When men enjoy occasional prolonged sex it can be an ego booster, but for men with anorgasmia it creates negative feelings such as frustration, anger and embarrassment.

One in ten men suffer from anorgasmia, but only one in a hundred seek help for their problem. Most men are embarrassed to talk about and seek help with problems related to sex.Men shouldn’t be embarrassed to seek help when it comes to any type of sexual dysfunction because there are medications, psychological treatments and physical treatments readily available. There is a huge variety of things that can cause anorgasmia in men like medications, stress, anxiety and alcohol. I would suggest contacting a healthcare professional that can help cure your anorgasmia, not only for you, but also so you can be “just right” for your partner.

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Author: Jillian

After working several years in not for profit as an advocate for the tatas, Jillian felt it was time to focus on the muff. Jillian is still unsure if the equator is a real line that goes around the Earth or just an imaginary one, but who the hell cares because she's got a great rack. Everything is funny as long as it is happening to someone else.