10 Reasons Why Not to Let Your Friend Play Matchmaker

in Dating & Sex by RZ — November 7, 2009 |

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“You should ask my friend Jenny out, you guys would be perfect for each other.”

We have all heard this line numerous times. Just because your friend knows the both of you really well and thinks you would be a great couple does not mean it will work. Actually, the chances are very slim. So, before you venture down that path consider these things.

All things end badly.

At least in relationship terms, otherwise they wouldn’t end. Even if you do marry the person you were set up with, there is still about a fifty percent chance that you are going to end up divorced. Then you will look bad and potentially be upset at your friend for setting you up with her in the first place.

There is a reason she is single.

If it looks to good to be true, the chances are that you are probably right. Maybe on the surface she seems attractive, but there are probably some underlying reasons that she is single. She could be jealous, insecure, obsessive, or plenty of other relationship deal breakers that you won’t discover until you are deep into the relationship.

Friends talk.

The girl you start dating will ultimately reveal things to your mutual friend that you disclosed to her in privacy. This could ultimately affect your friendship with your friend because after discussing these personal things, your friend’s perception of you could ultimately change.

Girls are jealous creatures.

At first, everything will be great and you will all hang out and get along fantastic. However, once you start getting serious and your time spent with your friend decreases, jealousy will most likely arise. This could develop into a tug of war for your time with you ending up as the only loser.

You will appear desperate.

There are plenty of single women out there; it doesn’t matter how old you are or how many of your friend’s are in serious relationships. If you want to find available women badly enough, you will find them. Having your friend set you up with her single friend gives the appearance that you can’t meet women on your own.

The attraction level is never mutual.

In nearly every relationship, there is one person that is always seems to be invested in the relationship more than their partner. This is just a fact of relationships and can lead to larger issues down the road.

Package check.

Let’s face it, all girls talk. Your new girlfriend will probably describe your package to her friend even though she does not want to hear those details. As a result, she probably won’t be able to get that conversation out of her head and you will catch her checking. This will lead to an extremely awkward moment.

Time share.

After this relationship ends, you will both remain within your friend’s inner circle of friends. This will ultimately put your friend in awkward situations where she has to choose whom to invite to certain parties and events because she does not want to create an uncomfortable environment with you both being at the same social function.

Hurting your odds.

The girl you dated was probably not the hottest girl in the group of friends or your first choice. By dating one friend, you run the risk of being blocked by the one you really wanted because you are officially off limits for dating her friend.

Probable cause.

The person you have been set up with you have probably been seen at numerous social functions before. So why did you not ask her out before? There is probably some attractive quality that she is lacking that prevented you from pursuing her. That is unless you are a complete wimp and scared to ask a woman out.

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